Shyness in teenagers.

This is always an uncomfortable, often painful psychological stage for any teenager. There is a strong wish to withdraw into the background. At the same time, paradoxically, there is also a need for attention and to be noticed. In many ways, this is a fundamental dilemma for the shy adolescent, who often fails to realise, that at the same time as seeking withdrawal and retreating from others, he is also seeking to place himself in the limelight.

Much of the root cause of shyness is based in misplaced sexual anxiety and guilt, which adolescent feels unable to talk about or to express. The biological drive is felt to be bad and wrong. Their clear interest in sexual attraction and relationships has therefore to be expressed indirectly through painful shyness rather than in a more open and direct way.

The shy teenager does not accept himself as a complex young adult with a wide variety of needs, feelings and expressions. He tends to feel everything in extremes, either bad, guilt-ridden, or a failure. The problem occurs because he is never at ease with himself. This is what is experiences with others outside his immediate peer group, especially in a mixed group. Shyness is best dealt with by a very varied family social life and free and open discussions of all emotional and sexual topics.

Very often the shyness is just a part of the picture and it goes along with low self-esteem and indecisiveness. In my practice, I can see how Homeopathic remedies helping the teens to accept themselves the way they are, to find their place in the community, and to make decisions about their future.